Why can relationships feel so hard?

Not because we’re weak.
Not because we’re unlovable.
Not because we’re destined for disconnect.

Often, it’s because we’re carrying patterns we didn’t choose - patterns shaped by past experiences, family dynamics, trauma, culture, or simply survival. We want connection, but vulnerability feels risky. We long to be close, yet our nervous system is still bracing for impact.

We struggle not because we’re broken, but because:

• We were never taught how to communicate emotions
• Old wounds still shape present reactions

• We’re doing what was once protective, even if it isn’t helpful now
• We’re using old maps for new relationships

And none of this means something is wrong with you.

Healing begins when we slow down and ask:

What is this pattern protecting?
What does the hurting part of me actually need?
What would it look like to meet myself with compassion instead of criticism?

You don’t have to do that exploration alone.

Therapy is a space to learn new patterns, deepen self-understanding, and build relationships that feel safer, warmer, and more connected.

If this resonates, I’d love to support you.

You can book a consultation or reach out to learn more.